Often the phrase is repeated” I hate my face” You’ve been told you’re ugly. Many times. Based on the surface, you aren’t attracted to males or females.
But here’s what you need to know: It’s not the end of the world. However, it might make you a better person, with a more appealing personality. In this article, we’re going to discuss 4 important things that will help you deal with being ugly. It’ll help you out more than you think.
I hate my face, Here are 4 ways to deal with that:
Time to be honest
People may have different taste, but most people recognize a universal standard of beauty. According to research, people with an “average face” are considered to be more attractive. Attractive faces tend to be symmetrical.
In a symmetrical face, both the left and right look the same. This is the mathematical mean of facial characteristics of the whole population.
While other people say that you look “unique” or “special”, the truth is that on the abstract beauty metric you’re sad to say near the bottom. You may be asking yourself, “why” I have to look like this?
Knowing the answer to this question is not important. All it helps to develop a victim mindset. And we can all agree that acting like a victim isn’t exactly appealing, males or females.
In reality, adopting a victim mindset takes a lot of effort to achieve, whereas giving up leads to bitterness, resentment, and powerlessness. Now without getting into all that, fitness is important, but the truth is, genetics have a pretty significant impact.
Genetics is something you can’t control. No matter how hard you try, you’re going to end up with ugly genes.
Don’t hide from the reality of your face and when people point it out, you in pain every time. Get to a point where if someone tries to hurt you by pointing out your unattractive features, your automatic response is, “So what?”
If you keep telling yourself that you’re not ugly but keep seeing an unattractive person in the mirror, it is going to lead you to a state of cognitive dissonance, which will keep you upset and uncertain, constantly afraid that you might let people know how you honestly look.
Why you need to accept how you look
The idea of acceptance means not just understanding why someone looks ugly, but being at peace with the way you look. You don’t hold resentment towards your parents because you look as you do.
Rather than worrying about how you appear, you accept it. You deal with it. And you instead focus your energy on things you can control. After all, there’s no point in worrying about appearance. It’s a waste of time and energy.
But it’s important to remember that you are not alone in feeling ugly. A lot of people, including people you would consider beautiful, do so. Insecurity about how we look is pretty universal.
According to psychologist Gleb Tsipursky, we are all self-conscious because we tend to judge ourselves more harshly than the people we interact with.
The balanced beauty assessment we give others is lost when we view ourselves with our flaws showing. Plus, our flaws come to your attention and make them more important than what you’re not paying attention to. This is called an attentional bias.
It is important not to assume that someone with an idyllic life has it easier than you do. They might be feeling insecure. The truth is, some people just might not see things for what they are.
So, if you can learn to accept yourself, you will be doing a lot of good. Not only will you have less negative self-talk, but you will also be in a better frame of mind.
We all know that confident people are attractive because they are comfortable with who they are and know what they want to do with their lives.
Is a struggle with self-esteem due to one’s appearance the most powerful attribute we can have in life? I think taking responsibility is the most powerful attribute we can possess in life.
I am not suggesting that you take responsibility for your physical appearance, but instead whether or not you respond to it… For the truth is YOU are either responsible for your happiness or your level of misfortune, your success or failure, and your relationship with yourself.
Realize that so much if is your mindset
What’s the difference between ugly and good looking? Would you prefer to wake up every day feeling depressed about yourself?
Are you going to walk away from the people you know you can be, because they look more attractive than you do? At the end of the day, however innocent or unfortunate your physical appearance, you hurt yourself more than anyone else.
No one is more critical of you than you are, since nobody believes you are important as much as you do. Let go of it and be happy in the ways you want to be.
Let not the bullies in school make you think you don’t deserve happiness simply because you look horrible. The good news is, you can still live your life no matter what your looks are.