I lost my confidence, 7 ways to rebuild lost confidence

I lost my confidence. Every one of us has had our confidence broken at some point in our lives, and we’ve had to rebuild our shattered psyches from the ground up. It might have been a tumultuous breakup, the loss of a job, the failure of an exam, or the rejection of someone we believed was a friend.


This ‘side-effect’ of PND came as a bit of a shock to me as a naturally confident person. I went from being certain of my overall greatness to questioning everything. Is it true that I’m a good mother? Are you an excellent writer? Is she a decent wife? Are you a decent person? I didn’t think the answer to any of those questions was yes at the moment.


I lost my confidence, 7 ways to rebuild lost confidence

Here are a some of the fantastic ideas that my Facebook community came up with:


  1. Take a look at all of the amazing folks who think you’re amazing.

Is there a more solid basis for self-assurance than unconditional love? Hopefully, your family and friends are as wonderful as mine, since knowing that they liked and appreciated me was a fairly strong indicator that I was a good mother, wife, and person. And it was a critical first step in restoring my self-esteem.


  1. Acknowledge the event that shattered your self-assurance.

The lover who tore our hearts apart. The poisonous buddy who only felt good about themselves while they were tearing us down. Trolls who made heinous comments on your blog post.


It’s pointless to pretend that these things didn’t happen, therefore accept responsibility for them. When you face something head on rather than allowing it to gnaw away at you from the side, it loses its power over you. I recall the doctor telling me, “Yes, you certainly have PND.” I felt a surge of energy because I immediately realised who the “enemy” was… and it wasn’t myself, as I had previously assumed.


  1. Keep in mind who you were.

Do you recall who you were before your self-esteem was shattered? So, you’re aware that you’re still that person, right?


  1. Make a list of objectives.

Could I also advise attempting something completely different as an addition to this?


Try a triathlon if you’ve never been active before. Try a painting lesson if you don’t think you’re creative. When you take on something you’ve never done before, you have no expectations of yourself. This relieves the strain and allows you to just amaze yourself with what you CAN do.


  1. Remove yourself from the hazardous circumstance.

Often, it is a circumstance or a person that saps our self-esteem, steadily eroding our self-worth. So switch jobs, join a new sports team, and avoid meeting your emotionally abusive friend or family member.


It may appear that you’re ‘running away,’ but the relief you’ll experience after leaving the poisonous circumstance or individuals will be all the proof you need that you’ve made the correct decision.


  1. Seek advice from your mentors.

We all have individuals in our life that we look up to and respect their opinions, whether they be personal friends, family members, or coworkers. Instead of tossing empty platitudes our way, these folks are quite good at telling us what we need to hear. As a result, we have complete faith in them.


As a result, we trust them when they say we’re awesome.


  1. Recognize that it will take time.

The majority of individuals who posted on Facebook said that getting things back to where they should be can take a long time – even years! After all, when something erodes your confidence, it typically happens gradually and insidiously, so it’s not something that can be repaired with a simple click of the mouse.


However, there are occasions when you must take issues into your own hands. “In the end, you can’t let an experience define you forever,” Margaret said, “and there came a time where I realised I could just choose not to let that incident damage me or my view of myself.”


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