It’s OK if You Don’t Have Friends at Work, Making friends with your coworkers might help you enjoy your job a lot more. But what if you don’t feel like you belong at work? Here’s how to improve your connections with your coworkers.
We’ll go through a few reasons why you might not have any coworker buddies in this post. We will solely discuss work-related reasons for not having friends in this post.
Read the original article I have no pals for general advice.
It’s OK if You Don’t Have Friends at Work
Recognize that making friends at a new workplace takes time.
At any new job, it’s natural to feel like an outsider. People are already members of their groups, and it is more comfortable for them to interact with coworkers they know than with “the new one.”
This doesn’t mean they don’t like you; it just means it will take some time for them to feel as comfortable with you as they do with their current coworkers.
However, if you haven’t established any pals after a few months, it may be time to reflect.
Use upbeat body language.
Body language that is negative or “closed” makes you look distant, unapproachable, or even arrogant.
Maintaining a straight, but not rigid, back might help you look more assured. Cross your arms and legs as little as possible.
When someone is speaking to you, lean in slightly to show that you are interested in what they are saying. Maintain eye contact but don’t stare throughout discussions.
When greeting someone, remember to smile. If smiling isn’t something you naturally do, practise in front of a mirror. A genuine grin with wrinkles in your eyes will make you more appealing than a phoney smile or not smiling at all.
You don’t have to grin all of the time, but you do want to avoid frowning.
It’s normal to tense up our facial muscles without even realising it, especially when we’re concerned or stressed. That might make us appear distant. Make sure you have a friendly, relaxed expression on your face.
Show an interest in the lives of your coworkers.
When getting to know your coworkers, try to listen as much as you speak. Keep in mind the small things that they reveal with you. Later on, you can ask follow-up questions to demonstrate that you are a good listener. For example, if they say they’re going hiking with their dog this weekend, follow up with a question on Monday.
It’s fine to keep the conversation to a minimum. Even if the topics are mundane, people appreciate someone who knows how to have a genuine two-way conversation. After you’ve established a rapport, you can move on to more personal and in-depth topics.
Negativity should not be a habit.
Negative people are draining and have a negative impact on workplace morale. Decide whether you want others to help you find a solution or just vent your frustrations before filing a complaint. If it’s the latter, think twice; it’s difficult to get rid of a bad reputation once you’ve established one. When you express a concern or point out a problem at work, be sure to follow up with a helpful suggestion.
Participate in social activities.
Coworkers can bond over after-work drinks, lunches, office competitions, events days, and coffee breaks. If you don’t participate, you might come across as distant and unfriendly. After a few outings, you’ll most likely stop feeling out of place.
No one enjoys being turned down, so if you decline several invitations in a row, your coworkers will stop approaching you. Make “Yes” your go-to response. If you’re nervous about social situations, start small, such as going out for coffee with one or two coworkers at noon.